So one thing that I debated for a little while before coming out with my transsexuality, was to ask myself whether I wanted to keep my existing social media accounts (Facebook, Twitter, etc) and my other services (email, for example), or if I was going to start everything from scratch, with no trace of the man I was before.
The main reason for starting over, I guess, is that if I met new people I may not want them to know about my transition (even though it can be obvious if you look at what I post on my facebook wall), and I may not have wanted the constant reminder of who I’m trying hard not to be.
But then, I realized that for me, my past is important. I don’t want to lie about it to anyone, I’m an open book about my situation (if I weren’t, you wouldn’t be reading this!), and being “vague” about my past is not something I can really do well. I’m very bad at lying.
There’s also the fact that I’m not ashamed of my past. I am not ashamed of the man that I was, of the daughter I have, the wife I’m now divorcing, of all the things I’ve done and accomplished. I have no reason to be – I was who I was, and that’s that. In order to know where you’re going, you have to know where you come from, right? Right.
And now, anyone who looks me up on facebook, twitter, youtube, linkedin, or even dating sites (like okcupid) can see, not only who I am now, but the kind of past they’re walking into. Should they choose not to accept that, I honestly couldn’t care less and they can safely walk away without a second thought from me.
What about you? If you’re transgender, did you keep your old profile or start completely anew with no trace of your past self?